In Love with Marriage

Yes! You read it right! All of us, are in love with Marriages a lot! So, what if you aren't marrying? or have had married long back? Today Someone is...! So, it's a time for Celebration; Delicious Food; get together of Friends and Family; Designer sparkling Outfits; Dance... and what not?? All because two people, not connected by birth, have decided to spend the rest of their life together.

Doesn't all this sound Heavenly? Right from the window of the Paradise! I guess that's why we say "Marriages are made in Heaven"! In this Humane world we have found and made something, that seems so out of this chaos. In midst of this Practical and Logical stage, there isn't one person who can come up and give a reason as to why s/he want to marry their partners with all the possible logic? It's a Feeling that cannot be explained! It can just be Felt! Ecstasy! Bliss

Have you ever thought what leads to marriage; how and why do people marry? Yes! we all know about Love Marriages and Arrange Marriages! let's see how it works (it's my own perception, and I mean no harm to anyone Living or dead :))

Scene 1: So, while we were growing up  - school, college, university, office; while we were competing with anyone and everyone to excel in our academics and career; while we made friends as who were like minded or shared the same locality/ classroom/ lecture session/ workplace/etc. etc.  - there comes this one person whom you have no reason to talk to, meet, or exchange information (personal or professional)! But still we do! Welcome aboard! Love has happened to you!  Would this lead to a  LOVE Marriage? or in other words, if this couple ties a Knot, would it be called a Love Marriage?

Scene 2: Again, while we were growing up and we were not able to meet this special person by any chance! What happens then? Here comes the role of our Parents and Family! We all know the right age for getting married (honestly! I still don't know). So, when it's time, and they see that we aren't dating anyone (which can be due to multiple reasons - we broke up with the one we had a relationship with, or, we didn't get time to think about a committed relationship while we were so busy creating a career for ourselves, etc. etc. ), they take up the ownership to find the right match for us! it's like playing that game that the infants play to identify shapes and alphabets - one particular object should fit into their respective space! And, since we all know that parents and siblings know us the best, they really are able to find THE ONE for us! So, would this lead to an ARRANGE Marriage?

Is there a Love Marriage, without making some major arrangements and adjustments?
Is an Arrange Marriage successful if Love hasn't sparked between the Couple?

It's a cliche that we, as a society, have created to differentiate between Love & Arranged Marriages! The Couple in Love has to let go so many inhibitions and overcome difficulties and hardships relating to their career & family to make sure they reach to the ground where they could tie a knot. And simultaneously, once people have found a match for us, it's hard work again getting to know and relate to each other and gradually feel the violins being played when you hold each other's hand . Having traveled across globe and met thousands of couples, I have realized that for Love to succeed, some proper arrangements are inevitable and  Arrange Marriages need that Love to blossom for a successful Journey called LIFE!