After she reached home, she sent me a text. It read - "It was a pleasure
meeting you. I really had a nice time with you around". My heart started
pumping hard. She likes me... But it’s still pretty early... But she has a soft
corner for sure... But how do I get to know? Let me ask her out... No! Not
again, not so soon... A movie may be...or should I??... What if she is not
thinking the way I am?... But she sent me the text... Can be just out of courtesy...but
courtesies are just a Thank You... Leave it. Let her take the next step... But what
if she is shy... After all, I am the man... She might be Expecting me to take
the next step.
So, eventually I am
Expecting, that she might be Expecting, me to take the next
step. Have you felt this lately? Let’s consider a few more real life examples –
I’ll refer them to MINE as I do not wish any of the readers/friends to feel that
it’s about them!
I have no plans for marriage for some time. May happen, May
not happen! Sooner or Later! It’s open and not definite. This mere though gives
my parents a shiver. Every day and each night, that’s the only topic of
discussion. But, now that they know that I am seeing a Lady (who, by the
information that I have given them, is a perfect match for me), they are so
much at ease. Nothing in reality has actually changed. No change in daily
routine, at home, at work, habits and patterns. But, I have been able to satisfy
their Expectations for me to get married (someday)!
Let’s take a few more real life situations. Your friend is a
good friend (is good to you & behaves so well) because s/he might be Expecting
a change in the type of relationship you share.
Your client is talking to you so
nicely, and talking more often. You start Expecting more business from them.
Parents
Expect their kids to perform better in academics.
Your spouse Expects you to share
every bit of details that happened during the day (or even night, if aren’t at
home).
Your kids Expect you to be more understanding and accept the new ways of
living life.
Your boss Expects you to perform two hundred times better.
The cab
driver Expects that you won’t ask for the change and would give away the rest
of the amount as tip.
The employee Expects his salary to increase every month (atleast
once every year).
The family of the patient Expects that the doctors would do a
miracle.
The politicians Expect to remain in power for ever.
The citizens Expect
that the Government should take up responsibility for every positive change (reforms)
that they need... and I can keep writing on and on and on... ooh not to miss
the very best:
WE ALL EXPECT GOD TO SOLVE ALL OUR PROBLEMS.
The next thought that comes to my mind is that, isn’t HOPE
that keeps the world moving forward. Then what’s wrong in Hoping all the above
(and more) to happen. Or is it EXPECTATIONS and HOPE are not the same?
HOPE: I wish I was blessed with a Baby girl. I would love to
be a father of a girl child.
EXPECTATION: I need a Boy child. Period!
Hope doesn’t bring sorrow with itself. In relationships,
hope drives us to come closer. Hope is always for a better option – not a
choice. But on the other hand, EXPECTATIONS hit you hard. In situations (mostly)
where our Expectations are not met, our relation with the person falls in a
soup. If we have too much of Expectations, then gradually our concentration (or
focus) moves away from the person itself, from whom we are Expecting.
As a behavior skills trainer, I have observed in almost all
the people I have met, that everything that bothers a person is somehow
sprouted from Expectations. I am no saint either; else I would have attained
Moksha! (But I feel I am pretty near to it).
So the choice remains yours; are you in Love with the person
Or the EXPECTATIONS?
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